9 Common Sexual Fantasies You're Too Embarrassed to Discuss
There are nine fantasies out there that you might think are rare but they're actually pretty common. Let's talk about them in a way that feels comfy and okay.
1. Role Play
Ever tried dressing up as someone else in bed? It’s fun to play different roles — maybe like a doctor or a pirate! Role-playing lets you get creative and learn more about each other.
2. BDSM Exploration
Into some light bondage or spanking? BDSM can be super exciting if both of you are on the same page. Trust is key, so make sure you talk it out first.
3. Group Encounters
Ever thought about playing with a few people at once? It’s common to wonder but hard to bring up. Just figure out what feels right for all involved and keep those lines open and honest.
4. Exhibitionism or Voyeurism
Got a thing for public spaces or watching others do the deed? The thrill can be intense, just make sure everyone's cool with it and keep things hush-hush.
5. Fantasies About Other People
Dreaming about someone else while you're with your partner is more common than you think. Talking openly about these thoughts doesn’t mean anything bad; it’s a way to understand each other better.
6. Anal Play
Worried about trying anal play? It can be a new kind of closeness if done safely and slowly. Communication is the best tool here — talk, listen, and go at your own pace.
7. Masturbation Together
Ever fantasized about being watched while you're alone in bed? This isn’t just about seeing or not seeing; it’s about feeling close to someone who respects that space.
8. Cheating Fantasies
Got a fantasy about cheating? It's more common than you think and doesn't always mean you want to do the deed. Talking through these thoughts helps build trust within your relationship.
9. Transformation Fantasies
Ever felt like switching up your look or even your gender for sex? Whether it’s changing clothes or diving into full-on role-play, this can be a way to feel empowered and have fun.
If you're interested in exploring more about sex positivity and expanding your knowledge on healthy sexual practices, consider checking out a book on the topic.
- Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski · the science of desire, especially responsive desire — a genuine myth-buster.
- She Comes First — Ian Kerner · a frank, practical classic on female pleasure.
- Better Sex Through Mindfulness — Lori Brotto · evidence-based work on attention, arousal and getting out of your head.
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