8 Ways to Reignite Desire After Menopause
Find fresh ways to keep things spicy and connected as you move through menopause.
1. Explore New Fantasies
Fantasizing is a great way to get in touch with what turns you on. Try imagining new adventures or revisiting old favorites that used to set your heart racing.
2. Switch Up the Setting
Change the scenery for some intimacy. Whether it’s a fancy hotel room, a beach trip, or just rearranging your bedroom, a fresh setting can really jazz things up.
3. Prioritize Self-Care
Taking care of yourself isn’t being selfish; it sets you up for better sex down the road. Exercise and healthy eating improve your overall mood and libido.
4. Communicate Openly
Talk openly with your partner about what’s on your mind—desires, worries, or just sharing experiences. Honest talk deepens intimacy and opens doors to new pleasures.
5. Get Creative in Bed
Mix things up in the bedroom by trying new positions or adding some toys for a bit of spice. Experimenting can bring back that spark and curiosity you might be missing.
6. Schedule Sex Time
Treat intimacy like an important meeting—schedule it and stick to it. This makes sex feel less rushed and more special.
7. Cultivate Romance Daily
Little acts of affection, like holding hands or leaving love notes, build a romantic vibe over time that can really boost your desire for each other.
8. Seek Professional Advice
If you're facing sexual health issues after menopause, seek out a specialist who can offer advice and solutions to keep things going strong.
Consider exploring books on sex positivity and women’s health for more insights into your evolving sexuality.
- Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski · the science of desire, especially responsive desire — a genuine myth-buster.
- She Comes First — Ian Kerner · a frank, practical classic on female pleasure.
- Better Sex Through Mindfulness — Lori Brotto · evidence-based work on attention, arousal and getting out of your head.
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