8 Simple Ways to Overcome Touch Deprivation in Relationships

Find simple ways to bring back that spark through touch.

1. Schedule Daily Affection Breaks

Pick a time each day just for cuddling or soft touches. Even a few minutes can really help you get closer.

Tell your partner you want to hug them. A small request like 'Can I give you a hug?' often leads to more affection.

Experiment with new ways of connecting, such as back rubs or holding hands, which feel less forced but still intimate.

Write down every moment of touch each day. Seeing it on paper can show you where you’re missing chances for closeness.

Focus on making your touches meaningful rather than frequent. A few thoughtful touches mean more than many rushed ones.

Hold hands while walking or snuggle up to watch a movie—public displays of affection are fun and reassuring when done right.

Talk about your past with touch and what you both need now. Knowing each other’s history helps build trust for the future.

Join groups or forums that talk about intimacy to learn from others and find new ideas on reconnecting physically in your relationship.

Reader Picks

Consider exploring books about healthy relationships that focus on building trust and communication through physical touch.

Mating in Captivity — Esther Perel · why desire and domesticity quietly fight — and how to keep both.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — John Gottman · the research-backed habits that actually predict a relationship lasting.
Attached — Amir Levine · the attachment-style book that explains why you reach or pull away.

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