7 Ways to Feel Safer in Bed Despite Anxiety
Anxiety doesn't have to spoil the fun; here's how you and your partner can find comfort and ease in intimate moments.
1. Communicate openly
Chat about what’s bugging you. Open up to each other about your anxieties, hear theirs out too, and come up with plans that help everyone relax.
2. Set clear boundaries
Talk about boundaries before things get heated. Knowing where the lines are can cut down on stress and confusion.
3. Start with small steps
Start slow and work your way up. Begin with snuggling or light kissing to build confidence gradually.
4. Create a cozy space
Make your bedroom a cozy, private space. Soft lights, calming scents, and familiar stuff can make everything feel more comfy and secure.
5. Practice mindfulness
Stay in the moment before getting intimate. A few breathing exercises or meditation sessions can help ground you and calm down any jitters.
6. Use positive affirmations
Remind yourself of your awesome self-worth and abilities. Positive talk boosts confidence and quiets anxious thoughts.
7. Seek professional advice
If things still feel tough, see a therapist who understands sexual health or relationship issues.
Consider exploring books on mindfulness techniques or therapeutic practices to further enhance your mental wellness.
- Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski · the science of desire, especially responsive desire — a genuine myth-buster.
- She Comes First — Ian Kerner · a frank, practical classic on female pleasure.
- Better Sex Through Mindfulness — Lori Brotto · evidence-based work on attention, arousal and getting out of your head.
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