7 Common Sexual Desires That Are Normal Yet Often Shamed Post-Menopause
Sexual desires don't disappear just because you hit menopause. Here’s the real talk on what’s normal when it comes to libido and desire after menopause.
1. Spontaneous Desire
Your urge to get frisky might dial down a bit during menopause, but spontaneous urges still pop up sometimes—totally fine.
2. Exploration with Partners
Menopause can open the door for trying out new moves with your partner. Deeper connections often mean more freedom to explore together.
3. Solo Pleasure
Solo play keeps things fun and intimate. It’s all about loving yourself no matter what age you are.
4. Increased Sensitivity
Some women find their senses on high after menopause, making everything feel even better—totally natural and amazing.
5. Desire for Intimacy
While physical intimacy may change post-menopause, emotional closeness remains super important. The desire for connection stays strong and beautiful.
6. Fantasy Play
Fantasies or role-play can add some spice to the mix. It’s all about getting creative with your partner beyond daily routines.
7. Experimenting with Toys
Sex toys are a safe way to boost intimacy. Vibrators and other gadgets make self-exploration and shared fun easy and enjoyable.
Consider exploring books on sexual health and wellness that cater to mature individuals looking to maintain an active and fulfilling sex life.
- Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski · the science of desire, especially responsive desire — a genuine myth-buster.
- She Comes First — Ian Kerner · a frank, practical classic on female pleasure.
- Better Sex Through Mindfulness — Lori Brotto · evidence-based work on attention, arousal and getting out of your head.
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