6 Small Changes to Boost Sexual Desire Over 40
Aging doesn't mean your sex drive has to fade. Here are simple tweaks that can reignite desire and keep intimacy spicy.
1. Try New Positions
Trying out new positions can add excitement and comfort, especially as bodies change with age. Think angles that reduce strain and amp up pleasure.
2. Schedule Date Nights
Regular date nights aren't just for new couples. Set aside time weekly or monthly to connect romantically beyond the daily grind.
3. Focus on Foreplay
Spend more time teasing before sex to boost arousal and intimacy, making it more enjoyable for everyone involved.
4. Use Lubrication
Dryness can be common after menopause. A good lube can make a big difference, easing discomfort and boosting pleasure.
5. Talk About Desires
Talking openly about your desires, fantasies, and limits keeps the spark alive and makes sure both partners are happy.
6. Stay Physically Active
Exercise improves blood flow and energy levels. Even a daily walk can make a significant difference in libido and overall health.
Consider checking out relationship books that offer practical advice on maintaining sexual passion over the years.
- Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski · the science of desire, especially responsive desire — a genuine myth-buster.
- She Comes First — Ian Kerner · a frank, practical classic on female pleasure.
- Better Sex Through Mindfulness — Lori Brotto · evidence-based work on attention, arousal and getting out of your head.
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